Thursday, October 20, 2011

Pushing Through

How hard do you push to achieve what you want? 

Many times we’re faced with a situation that requires us to do more then what we think we have within us to do. It is in those times that your subconscious mind lets you know that you are not able to complete the task. However, when we become consciously aware of our thoughts we are able to override them to produce more. 

Our achievement is not only completing the task and push ourselves outwardly but our achievement is also on the inside. When we stand and fight for what we desire, we push beyond, we achieve something far greater then what is seen; we achieve greatness and increase our integrity, we raise our inner pride and that is accomplishment.

So pushing ourselves publicly is wonderful but what about those times when no one is watching? Do we follow through and push even harder for ourselves or do we give in? 

Here is an example; I committed myself to reduce my weight by 10 pounds in the month of October. This past week, I ate fruits, vegetables, drank plenty of water and have not reduced by one pound. So it is now time for me to eat. What do I reach for, Mac & Cheese? Who is going to know but me, and that is exactly the point. Do I continue and eat the Mac & Cheese while wonderful when mixed with chili beans or do I push myself and eat what I know in my heart I should be eating?

What do I really want, a week of well I tried and it didn’t work, or a month of diligence and achievement because I pushed myself and followed through? 

They say that change is within us if we preserver. It takes between 20-30 days for change to take affect. So I am only in week one and my body says heck on it. You’re not going to fool me into believing you want change. It puts up all sorts of road blocks, trying its hardest to get me to give in. My mind shows me the Texas Toast that is in the freezer, the Mac & cheese, the sugar, ah yes sugar. 
I will not give in, because I want to see results. I got this way because “I” let myself go and now “I” need to undo what “I” have done. It is my body and my brain we need to get be on the same page. 

So what does pushing through mean for you, it helps to prove to others and yourself that you will do whatever it takes to fulfill your desire. Pushing through builds integrity when no one is watching; pushing through says YES I CAN when your mind and body say no you can’t. So if thoughts become things, push through to the other side and become more then you think you’re meant to be. PUSH!

Believing in you to push,
Carol Scheid
Becoming a butterfly.

"Stinking thinking"

I have been told that I think too much. And yes it is very true. I think about what people say, how they treat me, how I respond, what I could have done different, what should I have done, how, what if, …..

We have all heard what you think about you bring about. Ughhh! 
So what do you do? How do you stop the “thinking”? 
Is your thinking about worry, regrets, past promises, unattained dreams, or condescending words, poor relationships, I wish I could, if only I had….? 

Or do you think about how great it is to have a job, the car you drive, the roof over your families head, the fresh clean clothes you pull out of the closet each day, happy and thankful that you had the money for those new tires, how great it was to go to the movies with a family member or friend, how great it was to go out for that once a month special meal, how nice it was to treat yourself to that special coffee.…? 

What do you “think about”? 

Is your thinking a process you use to re-evaluate an occurrence in your life? Do you use it as a tool to make better decisions, changes, or do you just mull things around and get angry? Does your “thinking” bring you resolve or ulcers? 

Sometimes it is better to really think about what we want to do then just jumping in and doing it. Then again sometimes waiting too long can also become a problem within itself; and when do you know that you have waited too long and how do you know when it is the right time to act? 
They say that timing is everything.

Stinking Thinking….so what we think about we bring about, worry; what? 

So I guess the moral of this story is to be careful what you think about, how long you think about it, what your thinking is doing for you and too you as well as those around you.

 Oh, one more question, is your thinking making you who you are today? 

Now that is something to think about. 

Please leave your comments; I look forward to reading what you think about.

Wishing you love, peace and joy

Carol Scheid
Becoming a butterfly

P. S. Here is an article I would like to share: Negative vs Positive Thinking  

A really Great Movie:  Pink Bat 

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Unconditional Love

If you died during your sleep tonight would the world say about you? What would your family say about you? I went to a funeral a couple years back, now this person was not a very nice guy, but he was a great dad; he loved his daughter with all he had, absolutely no question.

So your life hasn’t been so great, you have made mistakes, you cuss, smoke, drink, argue, call some names, maybe cheat on your spouse; whatever, I don’t want to know the rest. Have you ever asked yourself why you do these things and waited for an answer? 

I watched a Christian video today and they said that God loves us no matter what. Now I have heard that, know it in my heart, but it is still hard for me to accept, in fact it makes me cry. Why, because his love for us is unconditional. Can you say that about you and who you love? I know truthfully, I can’t. Why, because my emotions get in the way and I find reasons for not loving or maybe I should say unloving. 

Unconditional love, the kind of love that you feel with your heart when you hold/held your first born. Unconditional love, when you and your mate were newly in love and just a look sent you silly. Unconditional love, when nothing else matters. 

So could your life be better, can you make it better, do you want to? 

Wishing you love, peace and joy.
Carol Scheid
Becoming a butterfly.

If you are new here, you might read my previous posts. They may or may not pertain to you, but still they may shed some insight.

A Country Garden

While I am sitting here reading my email, I thought ya know, your blog title is "A Country Garden" and the stuff you post has nothing to do with gardening per se'. I am sure many of you wonder the same thing. Why did I name my post that? Because life is like a garden, it produces what we plant. If you plant roses your are going to get stuck, if you plant grass you can be sure your going to be cutting it often(grooming). If it is full of nettle and you stick your hands in it, you get the idea….

That being said I do love gardening; and not only gardening but the science that is within it. I love to study about the structure of plants and trees. I had done a post a long while back and it just so excites me about plants, their makeup if you will. 

Long before my divorce we lived in the country. My soil was red clay shale rock. I did a lot of digging on my hands and knees. I called myself a human spoon. We brought in plenty of soil conditioners, dumped my rocks, pulled out lots of natural grasses. My garden was situated along the road way, was maybe 20x200’ long. 

I loved it there, I could look out my window and see my rose bush in full bloom, see my Bee Balm filling in the outer edge, see my paths run from one colorful room into another; all the while knowing that passersby would be able to enjoy the beauty amongst all the brown grasses that surrounded us. I miss doing that; I would spend hours on the weekends out there digging in the dirt until maybe 10:00 at night. I had my little night light on my head full of red dirt just digging away. 

Since then, I am not as able to get up and down, but I still have a little garden. I love the colors out my door, watching the Hummingbirds and a few Butterflies in the spring and summer months. The magic of plants is still there for me and I love dreaming about the forests and all their trees and all the differences between them. 

For me it is sad that not everyone enjoys the beauty that is within plants. They are not just plants; something that you put in the ground and hope they grow. They all have their own personalities just as people do.
So that is a little about me, what some of my passion is and why my blog is called A Country Garden.

I hope you enjoyed it. I hope that you too will find an interest in gardening and not just put a few plants in the ground.

Wishing you peace, love and joy.

Carol Scheid
Becoming a butterfly.

In all their glory, all unique, distinct, and different.

Make a List

     Today I want to talk to you about developing lists. And no I don’t mean a shopping list. These lists are designed for you to look at what you want in the forms of a partner, friends, relationships, and even yourself. It is writing down what you see, want and expect to find in another person and ultimately yourself. 

     So here we go. 

     Make a T on the page. Write down a name of a person that you want to explore. In the T on one side write likes and the other side dislikes. Then write on a separate page the reasons for your thoughts. What is it about the person and why do you like/dislike that attribute in them. 

     Now that you have your lists, really look at them and ask yourself do you see yourself in any of these behaviors that you like or dislike. If they are dislikes in yourself make that list because that is the list you are going to use to make changes in yourself. 

     For instance if you say that Sally makes condescending comments, look at the comments, what do they revolve around and what is it that you are doing for her to talk this way. It is said that what happens in our lives Is because that is what we are attracting. An old adage is “birds of a feather flock together.” This is so serious because if we want to make a difference we have to know what it is that we need to change inside of ourselves. 

     I current have a friendship that I am looking at and wondering what it is that makes her say the things she does to me. I kind of feel like she is my mother hen, so I have to ask myself why; I know that I have been through many things in the past two years but I am not that inept, at least I sure hope not. Then again, I also need to look at where she has been and is currently. Sometimes we speak words that “we” need to hear. We just need to shut up and listen. 

     So let me know how you are doing and what your thoughts are. It is such a huge important process and yes it does take a lot of dedication and work. But to become more you have to do the work. Of course you do have an option. You can just be what you are today, continue to live your life as it is and be O.K. with it. But for me I am 60 and I am not O.K. with what is or has been. 

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Becoming a butterfly