Sunday, March 11, 2012

500 Words

If you knew that today was your last day and you wanted to write something memorable what would you write? For me, I will say this:

Be the author of your own book. Learn to be inspiring by being inspired.

Learn to see what is around you. Have you ever watched a swarm of birds move with the wind? It is so beautiful and something you miss if you don’t look up. Have you ever seen a plane in the sky and wondered who was on that plane, let your imagination run with it? Have you watched the formation of clouds, how quickly they move, join and disconnect; the sway of a tree as the breezes of the air move around the limbs and leaves. Have you ever really looked at dirt, the colors, the grains, the sand or texture?

Do you ever travel the roadways and never really see what is there? Are you just on a journey and not really enjoying the adventure?
 Did you stop and see the red worm moving across the ground or hear the pine cone fall through the trees and hit the earth with a thunder? Did you come across a beautiful flower you didn’t see from the road or smell the scents of the trees? Maybe you saw an eagle flying overhead and hear his/her caw and notice that one white cloud. Maybe you saw a coyote eating his meal, or notice the wonderful markings on a cow, see a lamb nursing or one frolicking in the field. Did you hear the waves breaking against the rocks or see a seal sun bathing? Did you notice the color of the water, or the smell of the sea air?

You are on a crowded street, ever stop and watch the people? Listen to the sounds of what is around you; the busyness of the day may provide a different perspective then what you normally see.

Here is the tough one; learn to let go. We all know that we cannot change the past. Imagine how much weight those negative thoughts and emotions weigh.  If you could put them in a pile, how big would the pile be? Do you really want to carry all that? Is your health worth caring all those condescending thoughts, anger, fear, and hurt?  Think about it, today is your last day for ever; what does that stuff really matter now?

Read. We are given an opportunity to share in the thoughts of others through reading. Pick up a book it just might be inspiring.

Is your future what you preview in your mind?
Your future is the next chapters that are yet to be written. If you take all the steps written above and apply them today you can write a wonderful tomorrow. Learn to be grateful for what is in front of you, even when you hate it; why? They are the lessons that need to be reviewed and deciphered, pull out the parts that you can learn from to change today into tomorrow.

Remember you are the author and if you don’t like this chapter change it. No one has a right to write your chapter for you. Not your spouse, your family, friends, or employer; only you hold the pen.

Learn to live life with love and laughter. Inspire others.

Becoming a butterfly,
Carol Scheid

Please leave your comments and share with others. Thanks for stopping by.

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Self Talk- Your inner Voice

Self Talk- your inner voice
How does self talk affect us? When you use the same words or types or sequence of words daily they begin to permeate our subconscious mind. You must remember that your mind does not forget anything and believes everything to be real. Words are no different; even when they are our own words, which can be really great or terribly horrible. 

I remember pretty much my whole life starting as a child I would say something negative to beat someone else for saying it first. In others words I would cut myself down. Sounds odd doesn’t it; why would I do that? 
When you are raised in a continuously negative environment it begins to become your nature which takes over your mind. You begin to believe all those bad words as truth, and hence negative self talk. It takes a great deal of focus on your part to change that. 

When you find yourself saying things like, “I can’t finish this in time; that is a pretty blouse, ahh, but I can’t really afford it; man, that looks great for lunch, but it’s cheaper to get this other item; maybe I should buy these pants, no I won’t they make me look fat. Maybe I will take a class at the JC after work, no, I am not smart enough, I won’t do well.   These are types of negative self talk.

Negative words no matter their use affect others around you. It is a poison in the mind that spreads like wild fire. They say that swearing is very similar and it comes from anger. Think about being in a fast food restaurant with your children, a few high school students come in and the 'f 'words fly, what is your reaction? Do you really want to expose your children to that? You may say no, but what kind of words do you use at home? Are they negative, condescending, critical, demeaning, abusive, attacking? These words your mind hears and remembers. So does your family, and your children will retain them for life. 

So learn to listen to the words you choose to use. Learn to listen to your heart and not your head, they are very different. When you become connected with your inner self you will realize the areas that you need to improve on and it will begin to come natural to you. You will build inner strength; yes it takes diligent effort, time and commitment. Oh, you will feel so much more at peace with yourself. It is really great.

You are worth every thought of positive emotions and feelings you can conjure.
I have attached an audio that I would like to share with you. Listen to it, think about it and see if it affects you. Here it is: Finer Minds
Here is another article that I just found and wanted to add some additional content concerning negative thinking and talking: Are Negative Thoughts Cutting Your Lifespan in Half?

Becoming a butterfly,
Carol Scheid

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

New Year's Resolutions & Vision Boards

Vision Boards and resolutions, why do we use them and what is the correlation between the two?
 “New Year’s resolution” is a choice to make a change in some area of your life at the beginning of the new calendar year. It is seeking a goal to achieve, making a plan and putting it into place. The problem with resolutions is following through. Why, because we lose sight of our vision. So that is where a vision board comes into play. However, putting a picture or words in front of you may not be enough to reach achievement. 
This is something you might want to consider when writing down your goals. Write down what the purpose of the goal is. What is it that you want to achieve and why? That is the most important part of setting a goal, it is the why that is behind it. But before you just sit down and consciously write down a bunch of crap, search from within, what is really inside of you that makes you want to achieve a certain outcome. 

For example, the all time favorite is weight loss. First, look at the real cause of the weight gain. Then look at what the end results of reduction in weight will bring. First you will feel better, it is healthier in many aspects for your body; muscle mass, circulation, heart, blood pressure, diabetes, self image, now you get a new wardrobe, it is easier to get in and out of the car you get the idea. If you need help in this area, do a Google search for whatever your new resolution is. Maybe it will give you some ideas about the benefits you want to achieve.

So now you have your goal selected, but what is your why? This is the hard part; my weight gain has to do with my previous marriage and has nothing to do with food; the food was the tool I use to gain weight. 

Now notice I said release, I did not say “lose”; why, because when you lose something what is the natural reaction—to find it. I do not want to “re-find” this particular loss. So this is also a very good point I will make, be very careful of the word(s) you choose to use. 

Remember your subconscious remembers everything and uses it. It does not know the difference between real and imagination.

So what is your story and why do you want to achieve it? Take your time and put some real thought into it. What joy is it going to bring you and/or others?

So whatever it is you are seeking in life, remember one of the strongest gems in the world is a diamond and it lasts forever. Diamonds when cut have faucets to bring light into the gem. It is the cuts of the diamond that make it glisten. So let the light in and shine and glisten like a diamond. 

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you achieve greatness. Please post your comments below I would like to hear your resolutions; I appreciate you and value your time.

Becoming a butterfly,

Saturday, December 31, 2011

The end of the Year 2011

Well it is December 31, 2011 at 8:45 pm pst.

The last week was a very hard one for some friends and I. We lost the most incredible lady I have ever known. You may have read some of the postings about Sarah Thompson on Facebook. She was our team leader, mentor to so many, best friend and a very loving Mother. It was devastating news to hear she had passed. I know that it is always hard to have a loved one move on, but this was one of those that really hurt. You really feel a loss inside; Sarah meant so much too so many people around the world. 

In May, Sarah had some very adverse health issues, several heart attacks, surgeries, internal bleeding, but somehow by the grace of God she pulled through all of that and appeared to be doing really well. She sounded wonderful, strong, and healthy on our team calls and on training calls she had completed the previous week; some really great training. It is kind of like God did not feel Sarah was ready to go in May because she had not yet completed her task and prepared us for the future.

These past few months I have had the honor of re-connecting with people that were previously friends, acquaintances, neighbors, and/or co-workers. I have been giving this some thought as to why these people are coming back into my life now. I don’t understand everything yet, but I do know that people come and go, but when your life is under duress, you lose connection with people and ourselves. 

I think because of the changes in myself these people are being re-directed back to me. It is like OK, she is now ready to be around you again. I like that; I think it is so cool that I am re-connecting with past friendships. It means that I am growing and becoming a better person. If God did not feel that I was ready to socialize he would not be putting these people in front of me.

We all go through turmoil in our lives. It is what we do with it that makes a difference. We can continue to mutter, or we can read the map, pick a road, make a plan and move forwards. Sarah used to say we all have our own Mt. Everest, each one of us has our own mountain to climb, and no one can do it for us. It is for us to do the work.

Reminds me of the story of the three men that Jesus gave money to, one did nothing, buried it out of fear of losing it, one made a little money and the third trusted through faith and made the best investments. God does not give us more then we can handle, even when we think we are carrying Mt. Everest on our shoulders.

It has been an incredible journey these past couple of years. I have gone through every emotion, feeling sadness, bitterness, resentment, anger, pity, fear, impoverished, guilt, inadequate, maybe even a little envy, and don’t forget about paybacks. But all that is past, I have conquered that part of the journey and come out on the other side of the mountain ridge. I do still have some self-doubt and negativity to get rid of, but I made it.

What do I see now; clear skies, a little chill in the air, clean fresh air and a new trail yet uncharted.

I am anxious and excited; I have new shoes to try out on this trail. My camera is loaded and ready for whatever new venture is in front of me. I hope you will come with me on the journey. 

Oh yeah, I forgot to share, my friend and I went into a camera store this past week. This past year I had purchased a Canon Powershot SX130. I asked him if he would help me with my camera and explain what I could do different. Wow, did I learn a lot. First he told me that I had a great camera for a point and shoot. That made me happy, I am not very knowledgeable in this area; something that is going to be new to learn this year, learn how to use and understand my camera and photography. It is after all a part of my bucket list.

Oh, I also want to mention working on your vision board for this year. Start looking ahead at what you want to conquer in 2012. Don’t forget to look at your book list. I have several that I am going to re-read before I invest in new material. That may also be part of my new business blog, the books I am reading and what my take on the book is.

Great things are going to happen this year; I feel it in my bones. 

I want to wish you all a very wonderful, positive, inspirational, encouraging, thought provoking New Year in 2012. May God bless your lives, instill great things into your hearts, give you wisdom and strength.

Becoming a butterfly,

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Something Important to share

I found this on Facebook and it is so astounding to me I thought it important enough to share with you…It is called Blind~~Author unknown

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.
She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.. He was always
there for her… She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see
the world, I will marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages
came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'
The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.
The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that.
The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

     Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her
     saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear; for before
     they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who
was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today, before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat or is getting their food from a dumpster.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who went too early to heaven from disease, an accident, was killed or just ended it all.

Before whining about the distance you drive, Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet or rides a bicycle.

And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, (such as myself) and those who wish they had your job or had the ability to work.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around, be grateful.

And while I am sharing here is another one on FB worth thinking about and I also have posted my response. 
            When people walk away from you…Let them go…
Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn’t mean that they are “bad” people.
            It just means that part of Your story is over.

Our lives are like reading a book. Every book is written in chapters. You finish one chapter and start reading the next new chapter. Sometimes we need a big box of tissue to get through some of the hardest chapters.
     Lisa Nichols once said similar to this ...
     I am not ending a relationship; I am just finishing  a chapter. 

I know that is such a hard thing to think about and remember; I struggle with it at times myself. But when we learn to change our thoughts, our emotions will change also and the old will no longer have a hold on us. We begin the process of learning how to let go.

 That is what I wanted to share today, I know the holiday season is upon us. For some it is a very difficult time. So be gracious in your thoughts and words. Remember there are those who are alone and a little companionship goes a very long way.

May this season bring you love and peace in your lives and in your hearts.

Wishing you peace, love and joy,

Becoming a butterfly    
Carol Scheid

Friday, November 18, 2011

Vision or Dream Boards

Do you know or have you heard about vision boards? Do you know anyone that uses them?
I have completed two of my vision board goals and am working on completing another. 

The purpose of a vision board is to give you a visual picture of what you want in your life. It is like an open scrap book that you can see all the time. Do you want to go on a cruise, see Italy, buy new dishes, new clothes, a new car, want more money, a bigger office, to visit a day spa as often as you wish, to travel and see the world, to learn how to cook like a chef, a new lawn mower, repair your sewing machine…you see it does not matter, because it is your vision, it is about you. 
I had placed three items on my vision board one was a cruise, now completed; one was a home for me, completed; one is getting my sewing machine fixed, in the process. Want a college degree, put a cap & gown on your board, want that new car, find a picture, print it out and glue/tape it to your board.  It is not about the length of time for the action it is about seeing it everyday, believing that you will achieve this goal and turn your life around for the good. 

          A vision board is a place where you can put 
your dreams of achievement.

This is just one of the many tools that I have used to get where I am today. Belief in yourself will take you a very long way.  

Do you have a deep desire to take back control of your life? 

Do your own research on vision boards or dream boards, seek out pictures to print, type of words that have meaning for you, make them big, bold, colorful, creative paste/tape them to a construction board, search through magazines. 
I use words like Achievement, success, happiness, courage, faith, freedom, smile, worthy, healthy, are just a few of the words I have chosen. 

As you conquer one goal take it down and replace it with another. Keep your board, fresh, moving and alive.  

Here are a couple of quotes from leaders:
“Envisioning means quite literally making something up out of thin air-and making it real. By definition, you can't do that within the confines of your skull. It needs to become physical; it needs to involve your senses. In other words, you need to write it down. Making pictures of it, which people sometimes call a “dream board,” is even better. Speaking it out loud is the most powerful of all. But at the very least, write it down. The moment you do, it has started to become real”
- Jeff Olson, The Slight Edge

“Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of y our goals as already complete. This is one of the most vital things you can do to make your dreams come true. Some psychologists are now claiming that one hour of visualization is worth 7 hours of physical effort. That's a tall claim, but it makes an important point - visualization is one of the strongest tools in your success toolbox. Make sure you use it.”
- Jack Canfield, The Success Principles

By creating your vision board and visualizing your future, you can ultimately create the life of your dreams!  

Dream, Believe, Achieve and become…you can do it  

Becoming a butterfly,

P. S. I would also like to include in this blog a recent audio that I have listened to to add value to this as well as importance.
New Dimensions

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Pushing Through

How hard do you push to achieve what you want? 

Many times we’re faced with a situation that requires us to do more then what we think we have within us to do. It is in those times that your subconscious mind lets you know that you are not able to complete the task. However, when we become consciously aware of our thoughts we are able to override them to produce more. 

Our achievement is not only completing the task and push ourselves outwardly but our achievement is also on the inside. When we stand and fight for what we desire, we push beyond, we achieve something far greater then what is seen; we achieve greatness and increase our integrity, we raise our inner pride and that is accomplishment.

So pushing ourselves publicly is wonderful but what about those times when no one is watching? Do we follow through and push even harder for ourselves or do we give in? 

Here is an example; I committed myself to reduce my weight by 10 pounds in the month of October. This past week, I ate fruits, vegetables, drank plenty of water and have not reduced by one pound. So it is now time for me to eat. What do I reach for, Mac & Cheese? Who is going to know but me, and that is exactly the point. Do I continue and eat the Mac & Cheese while wonderful when mixed with chili beans or do I push myself and eat what I know in my heart I should be eating?

What do I really want, a week of well I tried and it didn’t work, or a month of diligence and achievement because I pushed myself and followed through? 

They say that change is within us if we preserver. It takes between 20-30 days for change to take affect. So I am only in week one and my body says heck on it. You’re not going to fool me into believing you want change. It puts up all sorts of road blocks, trying its hardest to get me to give in. My mind shows me the Texas Toast that is in the freezer, the Mac & cheese, the sugar, ah yes sugar. 
I will not give in, because I want to see results. I got this way because “I” let myself go and now “I” need to undo what “I” have done. It is my body and my brain we need to get be on the same page. 

So what does pushing through mean for you, it helps to prove to others and yourself that you will do whatever it takes to fulfill your desire. Pushing through builds integrity when no one is watching; pushing through says YES I CAN when your mind and body say no you can’t. So if thoughts become things, push through to the other side and become more then you think you’re meant to be. PUSH!

Believing in you to push,
Carol Scheid
Becoming a butterfly.