"Stinking thinking"

Thinking…

I have been told that I think too much. And yes it is very true. I think about what people say, how they treat me, how I respond, what I could have done different, what should I have done, how, what if, …..

We have all heard what you think about you bring about. Ughhh! 

So what do you do? How do you stop the “thinking”? 

Is your thinking about worry, regrets, past promises, unattained dreams, or condescending words, poor relationships, I wish I could, if only I had….? 

Or do you think about how great it is to have a job, the car you drive, the roof over your families head, the fresh clean clothes you pull out of the closet each day, happy and thankful that you had the money for those new tires, how great it was to go to the movies with a family member or friend, how great it was to go out for that once a month special meal, how nice it was to treat yourself to that special coffee.…? 

What do you “think about”? 

Is your thinking a process you use to re-evaluate an occurrence in your life? Do you use it as a tool to make better decisions, changes, or do you just mull things around and get angry? Does your “thinking” bring you resolve or ulcers? 

Sometimes it is better to really think about what we want to do then just jumping in and doing it. Then again sometimes waiting too long can also become a problem within itself; and when do you know that you have waited too long and how do you know when it is the right time to act? 

They say that timing is everything.

Stinking Thinking….so what we think about we bring about, worry; what? 

So I guess the moral of this story is to be careful what you think about, how long you think about it, what your thinking is doing for you and too you as well as those around you.

 Oh, one more question, is your thinking making you who you are today? 

Now that is something to think about. 

Please leave your comments; I look forward to reading what you think about.

Wishing you love, peace and joy

Carol Scheid

Becoming a butterfly

P. S. Here is an article I would like to share: Negative vs Positive Thinking  

A really Great Movie:  Pink Bat 

Unconditional Love

If you died during your sleep tonight would the world say about you? What would your family say about you? I went to a funeral a couple years back, now this person was not a very nice guy, but he was a great dad; he loved his daughter with all he had, absolutely no question.

So your life hasn’t been so great, you have made mistakes, you cuss, smoke, drink, argue, call some names, maybe cheat on your spouse; whatever, I don’t want to know the rest. Have you ever asked yourself why you do these things and waited for an answer? 

I watched a Christian video today and they said that God loves us no matter what. Now I have heard that, know it in my heart, but it is still hard for me to accept, in fact it makes me cry. Why, because his love for us is unconditional. Can you say that about you and who you love? I know truthfully, I can’t. Why, because my emotions get in the way and I find reasons for not loving or maybe I should say unloving. 

Unconditional love, the kind of love that you feel with your heart when you hold/held your first born. Unconditional love, when you and your mate were newly in love and just a look sent you silly. Unconditional love, when nothing else matters. 

So could your life be better, can you make it better, do you want to? 

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Carol Scheid

Becoming a butterfly.

If you are new here, you might read my previous posts. They may or may not pertain to you, but still they may shed some insight.

A Country Garden

While I am sitting here reading my email, I thought ya know, your blog title is "A Country Garden" and the stuff you post has nothing to do with gardening per se'. I am sure many of you wonder the same thing. Why did I name my post that? Because life is like a garden, it produces what we plant. If you plant roses your are going to get stuck, if you plant grass you can be sure your going to be cutting it often(grooming). If it is full of nettle and you stick your hands in it, you get the idea….

That being said I do love gardening; and not only gardening but the science that is within it. I love to study about the structure of plants and trees. I had done a post a long while back and it just so excites me about plants, their makeup if you will. 

Long before my divorce we lived in the country. My soil was red clay shale rock. I did a lot of digging on my hands and knees. I called myself a human spoon. We brought in plenty of soil conditioners, dumped my rocks, pulled out lots of natural grasses. My garden was situated along the road way, was maybe 20x200’ long. 

I loved it there, I could look out my window and see my rose bush in full bloom, see my Bee Balm filling in the outer edge, see my paths run from one colorful room into another; all the while knowing that passersby would be able to enjoy the beauty amongst all the brown grasses that surrounded us. I miss doing that; I would spend hours on the weekends out there digging in the dirt until maybe 10:00 at night. I had my little night light on my head full of red dirt just digging away. 

Since then, I am not as able to get up and down, but I still have a little garden. I love the colors out my door, watching the Hummingbirds and a few Butterflies in the spring and summer months. The magic of plants is still there for me and I love dreaming about the forests and all their trees and all the differences between them. 

For me it is sad that not everyone enjoys the beauty that is within plants. They are not just plants; something that you put in the ground and hope they grow. They all have their own personalities just as people do.

So that is a little about me, what some of my passion is and why my blog is called A Country Garden.

I hope you enjoyed it. I hope that you too will find an interest in gardening and not just put a few plants in the ground.

Wishing you peace, love and joy.

Carol Scheid

Becoming a butterfly.

In all their glory, all unique, distinct, and different.

Make a List

     Today I want to talk to you about developing lists. And no I don’t mean a shopping list. These lists are designed for you to look at what you want in the forms of a partner, friends, relationships, and even yourself. It is writing down what you see, want and expect to find in another person and ultimately yourself. 

     So here we go. 

     Make a T on the page. Write down a name of a person that you want to explore. In the T on one side write likes and the other side dislikes. Then write on a separate page the reasons for your thoughts. What is it about the person and why do you like/dislike that attribute in them. 

     Now that you have your lists, really look at them and ask yourself do you see yourself in any of these behaviors that you like or dislike. If they are dislikes in yourself make that list because that is the list you are going to use to make changes in yourself. 

     For instance if you say that Sally makes condescending comments, look at the comments, what do they revolve around and what is it that you are doing for her to talk this way. It is said that what happens in our lives Is because that is what we are attracting. An old adage is “birds of a feather flock together.” This is so serious because if we want to make a difference we have to know what it is that we need to change inside of ourselves. 

     I current have a friendship that I am looking at and wondering what it is that makes her say the things she does to me. I kind of feel like she is my mother hen, so I have to ask myself why; I know that I have been through many things in the past two years but I am not that inept, at least I sure hope not. Then again, I also need to look at where she has been and is currently. Sometimes we speak words that “we” need to hear. We just need to shut up and listen. 

     So let me know how you are doing and what your thoughts are. It is such a huge important process and yes it does take a lot of dedication and work. But to become more you have to do the work. Of course you do have an option. You can just be what you are today, continue to live your life as it is and be O.K. with it. But for me I am 60 and I am not O.K. with what is or has been. 

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Carol 

Becoming a butterfly

Is Thinking Enough? Part 2

     Yesterday I wrote about thinking and actions. I would like to expand on that just a little. Here is a statement that I get in my IGoogle apps: "Why do you worry? I wait to give you all that is lovely. I can only bless glad thankful hearts."

     Gratitude is such a huge unappreciated and unexpressed emotion. In learning and growing we must have gratitude for the lesson we have been challenged with. Why? Because they are presented to us as a learning experience; just like taking a math class; each lesson builds onto the next lesson. When we are able to look back and say I remember doing this and this is what happened, that is a lesson. You learn to not do the same thing over. 

     Do you ever look back at a certain teacher in your life and remember their influence they had on you? Was there something they taught or said to you that has stuck throughout the years? 

     Our life is a journey; when we appreciate the values that we have acquired and the beauty that we enjoyed we are given gifts. As we grow and develop more skills in our lives use them as a learning experience and share with others. 

     Sometimes we have to be taken down to our knees before we are able to acknowledge that we need to make changes. No matter how hard they are, it is a reality. The important step here is not to give up, or give in to your circumstance but, to learn from it and grow. Do not end up in the street because you gave up. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and be determined to continue on and achieve. Do not weaken and turn to drugs or alcohol, those only make things worse and limit who you are inside. We all have pumps, boulders and crevices in our journey we need to learn how to get around them. 

    So be grateful for what you have today, no matter how small you may think it is. Be grateful that you have been shown a new and different way and always remember that we all have something wonderful to offer the world. We just need to look within.

This is a movie from Simple Truths, please watch and then read the comments below the movie:http://newsletter.simpletruths.com/a/hBOczybB8PINaB8dchvNmEGGaJ7/movie

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Becoming a butterfly

Carol Scheid

P. S. Please remember to leave your comments so I can share them with others.

A proud member of Home of Team Catalyst

Is Thinking enough?

It is said that thoughts become things?  My question is …Is Thinking Enough? 

We have read many books about thinking yourself into reality. You want to remodel your bathroom, you think about all that is involved, design, colors, materials, labor, and finances. Well thinking is not going to get the work done. You actually have to do something to make it happen. You make a plan, design, make choices, save money, buy your materials and get to work. We can not wish things into reality, anymore then we can wish our lives to change. We need to take action. 

Even when we want more money, we have to conjure up some sort of plan to get more money. Yes, it is said that the universe will provide us what we want, but only if we make the necessary changes first. God does not hand anyone a silver platter, while that would be really nice, he still wants us to make some sort of commitment and seek wise counsel. There are countless stories of people that have suffered miserably, thought, begged and pleaded for a better outcome, to no avail. So it is not the thoughts that make things happen, it is the action and the thoughts together that make things happen. 

There is also another thought I would like to share. What you think about you bring about…we have all heard that before. So what does that mean? Hummm…and why does this sound contradictory to what I said above? 

They are two different types of thoughts; one is monetary and the other is personal. While taking action to get something accomplished is true, it is also true that what you think about yourself will bring more of the same. If you continue to think about how broke you are, you will gain more bills. If you continue to claim something is a big piece of crap, guess what, it is going to break and prove to you that you are right. 

Now, here is something else, you think about something that you want, you wait, and wait, and pretty soon you stop thinking about it. Then one day it comes to be. Why, because when we put our thoughts out there, if we let go and let God, when the timing is right for us to achieve our desire, we will. We need to learn to be patient, positive, and remain in action.  

So while there are many things that we want; timing is everything. Be patient, don’t over spend, and make your plans while thinking positive about situations in your life. Do what is necessary to get things done and make changes. If you don’t know the answers, seek them out and wait; learn to listen to what is in your heart for it is never wrong.  Most importantly be happy and have faith.

Wishing you love, peace and joy

Carol Scheid

Carolae12@gmail.com

Becoming a butterfly

Apple Juice

Saturday, September 10, 2011

This morning I was rinsing out my Apple Juice container to use for my milk, because my Milk container leaks. So I put a little liquid soap in and began shaking it around to clean it out. In doing so, I thought wow; this is what I am doing with my thoughts, getting rid of the old dirty stuff so I can make room for the fresh new clean stuff. 

Are you doing personal development and not having the results you are hoping for? Are you wondering why that is? Our minds are like a computer and when the memory card is full it can not hold anything else. Ever get that message that says you are low on memory and your programs may run slow...? So out with the old and in with the new. 

Easy to do, you say? Ha, let me tell you a very recent story. 

A friend of mine in Canada recommended to me a guy who does subliminal hypnotic recordings. I have been listening to them for a few weeks now. (send me an email and I will send you his link.)  This past week, I was in a conversation via email with my ex. Before and after our conversation I listened to the recordings; all positive stuff, reaffirming in my mind that I am a power, wonderful person. In doing so, I had control of my thoughts and my ex lost his control over me. I feel amazing. All the usual past negative crap from the past 20 years still running out of his mouth; and it had not impact on me. 

That is incredible. YAHOO!!!

Why, because I am clearing out the old negative, useless, and non-productive thoughts. The apple juice is the negative thoughts and the milk is the new fresh clean and pure thoughts. 

Yesterday I listened to an archived call from this past week on the Mental Cleanse. This person was talking about his job and working the late shift and how he wanted to spend more time with his family. After a few months of thinking this way, his schedule was changed and he finally had weekends off.  Yes, he thought how wonderful. (He did not ask for the change.)
Then he began hanging out with people who were negative, critical and condescending. He began thinking negative also, what happened; his negative thoughts were put out to the universe and it was perceived that he was not happy with his new life style, his schedule was changed back and now he is working nights and weekends yet again. 

What a wonderful lesson. 

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So I hope that you take some time to really look inside yourself to find the answers only you will know. 
Remember what you perceive you will achieve. Thoughts really are things….

The mysteries of your soul begin to show themselves when you look within..

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Becoming a butterfly,

Carol Scheid

Carolae12@gmail.com

A proud member of the Home of Team Catalyst 

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