Make a List

     Today I want to talk to you about developing lists. And no I don’t mean a shopping list. These lists are designed for you to look at what you want in the forms of a partner, friends, relationships, and even yourself. It is writing down what you see, want and expect to find in another person and ultimately yourself. 

     So here we go. 

     Make a T on the page. Write down a name of a person that you want to explore. In the T on one side write likes and the other side dislikes. Then write on a separate page the reasons for your thoughts. What is it about the person and why do you like/dislike that attribute in them. 

     Now that you have your lists, really look at them and ask yourself do you see yourself in any of these behaviors that you like or dislike. If they are dislikes in yourself make that list because that is the list you are going to use to make changes in yourself. 

     For instance if you say that Sally makes condescending comments, look at the comments, what do they revolve around and what is it that you are doing for her to talk this way. It is said that what happens in our lives Is because that is what we are attracting. An old adage is “birds of a feather flock together.” This is so serious because if we want to make a difference we have to know what it is that we need to change inside of ourselves. 

     I current have a friendship that I am looking at and wondering what it is that makes her say the things she does to me. I kind of feel like she is my mother hen, so I have to ask myself why; I know that I have been through many things in the past two years but I am not that inept, at least I sure hope not. Then again, I also need to look at where she has been and is currently. Sometimes we speak words that “we” need to hear. We just need to shut up and listen. 

     So let me know how you are doing and what your thoughts are. It is such a huge important process and yes it does take a lot of dedication and work. But to become more you have to do the work. Of course you do have an option. You can just be what you are today, continue to live your life as it is and be O.K. with it. But for me I am 60 and I am not O.K. with what is or has been. 

Wishing you love, peace and joy.

Carol 

Becoming a butterfly

Is Thinking enough?

It is said that thoughts become things?  My question is …Is Thinking Enough? 

We have read many books about thinking yourself into reality. You want to remodel your bathroom, you think about all that is involved, design, colors, materials, labor, and finances. Well thinking is not going to get the work done. You actually have to do something to make it happen. You make a plan, design, make choices, save money, buy your materials and get to work. We can not wish things into reality, anymore then we can wish our lives to change. We need to take action. 

Even when we want more money, we have to conjure up some sort of plan to get more money. Yes, it is said that the universe will provide us what we want, but only if we make the necessary changes first. God does not hand anyone a silver platter, while that would be really nice, he still wants us to make some sort of commitment and seek wise counsel. There are countless stories of people that have suffered miserably, thought, begged and pleaded for a better outcome, to no avail. So it is not the thoughts that make things happen, it is the action and the thoughts together that make things happen. 

There is also another thought I would like to share. What you think about you bring about…we have all heard that before. So what does that mean? Hummm…and why does this sound contradictory to what I said above? 

They are two different types of thoughts; one is monetary and the other is personal. While taking action to get something accomplished is true, it is also true that what you think about yourself will bring more of the same. If you continue to think about how broke you are, you will gain more bills. If you continue to claim something is a big piece of crap, guess what, it is going to break and prove to you that you are right. 

Now, here is something else, you think about something that you want, you wait, and wait, and pretty soon you stop thinking about it. Then one day it comes to be. Why, because when we put our thoughts out there, if we let go and let God, when the timing is right for us to achieve our desire, we will. We need to learn to be patient, positive, and remain in action.  

So while there are many things that we want; timing is everything. Be patient, don’t over spend, and make your plans while thinking positive about situations in your life. Do what is necessary to get things done and make changes. If you don’t know the answers, seek them out and wait; learn to listen to what is in your heart for it is never wrong.  Most importantly be happy and have faith.

Wishing you love, peace and joy

Carol Scheid

Carolae12@gmail.com

Becoming a butterfly