Self Talk- Your inner Voice

Self Talk- your inner voice

How does self talk affect us? When you use the same words or types or sequence of words daily they begin to permeate our subconscious mind. You must remember that your mind does not forget anything and believes everything to be real. Words are no different; even when they are our own words, which can be really great or terribly horrible. 

I remember pretty much my whole life starting as a child I would say something negative to beat someone else for saying it first. In others words I would cut myself down. Sounds odd doesn’t it; why would I do that? 
When you are raised in a continuously negative environment it begins to become your nature which takes over your mind. You begin to believe all those bad words as truth, and hence negative self talk. It takes a great deal of focus on your part to change that. 

When you find yourself saying things like, “I can’t finish this in time; that is a pretty blouse, ahh, but I can’t really afford it; man, that looks great for lunch, but it’s cheaper to get this other item; maybe I should buy these pants, no I won’t they make me look fat. Maybe I will take a class at the JC after work, no, I am not smart enough, I won’t do well.   These are types of negative self talk.

Negative words no matter their use affect others around you. It is a poison in the mind that spreads like wild fire. They say that swearing is very similar and it comes from anger. Think about being in a fast food restaurant with your children, a few high school students come in and the 'f 'words fly, what is your reaction? Do you really want to expose your children to that? You may say no, but what kind of words do you use at home? Are they negative, condescending, critical, demeaning, abusive, attacking? These words your mind hears and remembers. So does your family, and your children will retain them for life. 

So learn to listen to the words you choose to use. Learn to listen to your heart and not your head, they are very different. When you become connected with your inner self you will realize the areas that you need to improve on and it will begin to come natural to you. You will build inner strength; yes it takes diligent effort, time and commitment. Oh, you will feel so much more at peace with yourself. It is really great.

You are worth every thought of positive emotions and feelings you can conjure.

I have attached an audio that I would like to share with you. Listen to it, think about it and see if it affects you. Here it is: Finer Minds

Here is another article that I just found and wanted to add some additional content concerning negative thinking and talking: Are Negative Thoughts Cutting Your Lifespan in Half?

Becoming a butterfly,

Carol Scheid

Celebrate

It is so wonderful to read what others have written to inspire you, to lead and encourage you. I have learned so much by what others have written, it has really made a difference in my life. So today, I want to celebrate who I am, who I am becoming and more important who you are becoming. 

With so much stress and dismay in our lives it is very difficult to stay focused on our own personal dreams and desires. So as you a sitting reading this, take a few minutes to relax; breathe in and enjoy the moment. Let go of work, paying the bills, listening to the kids fight, the TV, and any other outside noises. Just be quiet and still. 

So now that everything around you is tuned out, think about what you have accomplished this week. Did you get the laundry caught up, did you take time to read a book, clean out that junk drawer, finish that dreaded report at work, what did you do that you dreaded or were afraid would not get done?  Now again, just settle down and think about how great that feels. Breathe in and relax.

Sometimes we just need to sit and celebrate our own personal achievements. Most things others do not recognize or appreciate and never acknowledge enough to say you did a good job. So I just want you to learn that it is OK for you to complement yourself.

Whoo raahh great and loyal servant, Good Job!  Isn’t it great to just sit and reflect? Be proud of the things you accomplish, and look at the other things you would like to do. But don’t overwhelm yourself with a to-do list. Just concentrate on one thing. One pebble out of the bucket at a time and soon all the pebbles will be gone and the bucket will be empty.

But with each job appreciate yourself for doing it, working hard and accomplishing what you set out to do.

When we have children, we teach them to put their toys away a little at a time. As they learn they start out small and grow to do more. As we become adults we are so busy multi-tasking we forget our basics to start out small.

Start with the baby steps and grow into the wonderful person you are meant to be one day at a time.

Becoming a butterfly,  

Carol Scheid

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