Your Attitude says alot about you.

It has been a while since I last wrote and for good reason.

I was having a tough time at work. Not that work is hard, but the people that surround you on a daily basis can really affect your mind.

If you are not careful you can be consummed by what is happening around you. That is exactly what has happened to me.

I was living in such muck, it was like a sponge sucking up muddy water.
It is like being in quicksand and sinking to the endless bottom. It is really tough to pull yourself out.

Thank God I have friends that will listen and help put me back on the right path.

And of course, there is one other that keeps me going and that of course is none other then the Lord himself.

I have said this before, it is tough sometimes to get out of your own way.
Well now I am moving over and moving on, finally. YES!

I have a question, have you ever made a list of what you want and do not want in your life?

I am not talking about money, or material things, but things that are important to you, things that say who you are and what you stand for.

When you make that list, print it out, and put it on the wall where you can see it daily. It will be a strong reminder for you and keep you focused.

Here is another one; do you ever listen to how people talk?

Do they swear a lot, do they sound confident when they speak, or do they sound angry, unsure of themselves.
That also, says a lot about where you are in life.

How is your self-esteeem?

Does it affect your attitude toward others?

When your self-esteem is low, it is difficult to fake it. It shows in your facial expressions, the way to walk and talk, even the way you dress says a lot about what you think of yourself.

So how do you control what goes on around you?

When your self esteem is high, you become a stronger person, more reliant and a better leader. It is a domino affect, low self esteem- treat people and your self crappy. High self- esteem-leads to building others and build yourself.

.Wishing you sucess, one day at a time.

Please feel free to leave your comments.


Carol

This weeks subject-Fear

So it seems that this week the subject is about fear. Where does fear come from and how does it resonate from our childhood?

As early as being a toddler we are taught if you do this, this is the consequence.

Touch the fire you get burnt, throw something you get a time out.
Hit someone; you get hit back. Etc. As we grow older those and many more are formed into our hearts and our head.

It gets to the point we are afraid “of our own shadow”.
Did we do the dishes right, did we remember to turn in our homework, is the laundry done correctly?
Did I get the toilet clean enough, is my bed made, did I get the grass cut right? Did I bring in enough wood for the fire tonight?

The list goes on. When you become an adult and have the “privilege” of having a job, you have to not only please your boss, but you co-workers as well.

Did I make enough copies of that assignment for the board meeting?
Hope I wasn’t late.

Did I take too long of a break, did I answer the phone quick enough and say the right things?
Did I get the floors clean enough last night?

Everywhere we turn there are things that impose fear in to our lives. Sometimes it is not much to think about, other times it is horrendous.

Sometimes we live in relationships that are not healthy. Sometimes we live in areas that are not safe, sometimes we are in the wrong place at the wrong time.

How often do you look over your shoulder, are you being followed?
In the parking lot; at the movies; inside the store?

So when does it stop and can you control your fears?

Well as I have just described fear inside of us is life long. We have been programmed from day one. So what we must do; is to unlearn the programming.

It is going to be easy, heck no. It is going to happen over night, no, but it also won’t take you your whole life either.

So your assignment if you choose to accept is this: look at your own life, write down what you fear. Then ask yourself why?

What is at the heart of your fear?

When you have that answer you will begin the process of owning your own life.

So let us all start to undo the programming.

Carol
The problem with doing nothing, is not knowing when you are finished --unknown

What am I Thankful For....

Good Morning:
It is Friday, November 21, 2008. As I sit here reading my emails, I came across one from Adlandpro.
I read the gentleman's blog about Thanksgiving, and I wondered what am I thankful for.

Well in todays' economy I am very thankful for my job.


I am oh so thankful for my health. Other then just recently having surgery to have my Gall Bladder removed, and I really could afford to loose a few pounds; I am in very good health.

So What Else?

Well how about the country that I live in, I can come and go as I choose, I can wear what I want, I can buy what ever food I want, I live where I want, say what I want, and have to bow down to no one.
I Worship my God and Creator without fear of death. I have the ability to choose where, when and how I wish to worship.

Pretty much, except for Taxes, I can do as I wish with my money.

What else, I am thankful for is my family.I have two really great kids, with 5 wonderful, happy, healthy, loving, spry, energetic grandchildren.
Each visit is wonderful. You can see them grow, each day. What a pleasure it is to see how they are learning. The smiles and the laughter and the joy watching them play. Knowing they are in good homes, and they are treated well.

I read this morning of a baby that was found in a dumpster dead. The Mother had just dumped it in there like garbage.
With so many couples that wish to have children and are never able, to have this type of tragedy is just appalling. I do not think I will ever be able to understand such behavior, there is just no excuse whatsoever.

It is so unbelievable that there are so many children that suffer in their everyday lives.

They live in poor dirty unhealthy homes, some with drug abusive families, some with physical and mental abuse.
Some in other countries do not have to the privilege of clean running water. They do not have a "bed" with blankets to keep them warm at night.
They do not have "breakfast" to eat in the mornings. They do not have the warmth of a heated home or air-conditioned in summer. They live with bugs, dirt, filth.
Heck that is not just in foreign countries but in our own as well.
They do not have clean dishes, or cups or eating utensils. They do not have electricity, gas, toothpaste and a toothbrush, or a clean pair of jeans.


I am thankful just to get up every morning with a smile on my face, a good cup of coffee to start another great day.

Wishing you peace, joy and a happy heart
Carol

If I weren't Afraid I Would........

Well here it goes, Thanks Roxanne for the push.

If I weren't afraid I would .....go back to school and get a degree in Ornamental Horticulture.

I found my love with plants years ago.

There are so many different varieties, textures,
smells, leaf shapes, stems shapes, sizes, thicknesses, not to mention colors of flowers.
Have you ever looked at the flower of a Oleander.
Yeah, I know that does not sound to exciting does it. An Oleander.
Well look at the inside of the flower. The shape of the flower its self it trumpet shaped. The inside depending on the variety is; say, white on the outside with a yellow inside where the stamen is.

Then there are trees, boy, the list could go on forever there. Just trees alone is incredible.

The sizes, shapes of the trunks, the type of wood, the skin color, does it have a heavy coarse bark, does it peel away, is it multi-colored.

Then lets talk leaf shapes and sizes. Some have single veins, some have a palmatte shape, some are "oak tree shaped". some are long and linear, some have rounded edges, some have ridged edges. Some have noddles on the back of the leaf, kinda look like spores.
In the fall some are yellow, some are red, orange, some are just brown or golden.
Some tress are evergreens.

Then you can get in to the root systems. Wow, some have tap roots, that can grow has long at the tree is high, some have surface roots or are shallow rooted, some have very deep roots.
Some trees have roots that spread out and travel quite aways.

Then there are the conifers, man there are a bazillion varieties there.
Cone sizes, shapes, even the needles of the trees are different. It is amazing.
Some are round, some are oval, or cone shaped, some are long and linear, some have smooth edges, others have rough sharp edges.

Oh, I have not even talked about grasses.

Again, there are so many different varieties, from lawn grasses to tall shrub like grasses to even Corn. Yeah, I bet you didn't know that.

Then of course, lets not forget about the Rose. Now there is a list to look at.

There are so many different species of plants it is amazing. To be able to travel the world just to be able to enjoy what this planet has to offer in natural beauty. What an incredible gift.

My ultimate goal was to be an Arborist.
Learning about diseases, how to prevent them, what causes them, and how to cure them.

So my fear, is my age, and not being able to afford the journey.
Not being able to complete the task at hand. I started once, and wasn't able to continue because of finances.
Then again, I was letting others make the decisions for me. I guess I still am.